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This line stands out to me: "I see that the absence of reciprocity is a call for the presence of stronger boundaries." And "Let's gate check our fantasy projections and take note of those moments when we are unreasonably expecting perfection."

These speak to my marriage relationship, where I've done such a dance for a long time of begging for reciprocity. Your lines encapsulate how I've been moving into better boundaries for the last year or so, and that's expediting everything. So good to grow from victim and begging for attention to finding new agency and ability and really that shapes everything!

I wonder too about how much I'm open to receiving and how that fits this picture as well.

Thanks for your wise words, Wendy!

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