Pink Pitchforks essay series (in review)

Transmuting victimhood into creator consciousness

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How much changes in a year. A year ago, I made the life-changing decision to make a provocative opinion post on Facebook, which blew up in my face. Since then I have been on a roller coaster ride of reckoning and reinvention — both as a writer, and human being. I have been through a deep initiation into my personal power. I have tested the outer limits of my self-love and self-acceptance. I have changed the way I engage with social media, radically and permanently.

TRIGGER WARNING: You might want to stop yourself from reading further if you are only interested in consuming or performing the “love and light” version of femininity. The essay series in review here dives deep into the shadowy mess and muck of the women’s empowerment movement and its distortions. It asks us to consider how promised liberation can perpetuate suffering.

For those who are new here or have simply missed parts of the story — below you’ll find a review of the essays detailing my experience and my inquiry into the complex dynamics at play. While parts were previously paywalled, the entire four-part essay series is now completely free to read.

Part 1 - How the feminine fights dirty. My true story about cancel culture in conscious community, the controversial post that led to my excommunication from an online sisterhood, indirect attacks using a wide variety of strategies

• My true story of cancel culture in a “conscious community”

Part 2 - Healing the witch wound. The gender politics of silencing, witch wound dynamics of difference and exclusion, what keeps the drama triangle turning, and how to exit the unconscious harm train

• The sound of silencing

• What’s a witch wound?

• Getting off the harm train

Part 3 - Safe spaces in community. The drug of false belonging, what it takes to create true community, how and when victimhood is helpful, and the place to find safe spaces for healing when we’re hurting 

• The drug of false belonging

• Victim: a state of emergency

• The place for safe spaces

Part 4 - Power and response-ability. A new look at accountability, unintended effects of perp naming, the process of transmuting pain into power, ideas for ways to create more safety, the specific adjustments that I have made, and the life lessons gained, closing thoughts on this chapter and my invitation to humanity

• Reframe on accountability

• Transmuting pain into power

• How I am creating more safety

• My life lessons earned

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